To know or not to know

Ever unsure of the direction your career should take?

Most of us have, or will at some point in our lives. This is my take on it.

Knowing who you are and where you are going is safe. Its knowing your limits; knowing your job; knowing your colleagues; and knowing whats expected of you.

Knowing is being ‘safe’, and ‘safe is security. Right?

Young or old, how ‘safe’ is safe in your job? The older generation say, “you should appreciate your job”. “Dont ever question your boss!” Or “You cant quit your job without having another secured!”. Security in my parent’s generation means being ‘safe’ in your job.

But, thats lifeless.

Respect? Respect me, and I’ll respect you!

Appreciation? Have appreciation for people and it’ll take you further than any political agenda could ever take you.

Dont question?! Only fools dont question the status quo.

Dont quit your job?! Really?

I see more and more people going into the freelance world. And most quit their jobs nowadays without another job secured. They quit because they want to spend more time with their children. They quit because they want to follow their dream. They quit because they tired of office politics. They quit because they dont want to be told what to do anymore.

All the reasons behind this bottles down to what people are feeling. Its not the industrial revolution anymore. People want to feel connected. Inspired. Motivated! And more organisations are not doing this for their employees, so employees are doing this for themselves. Its a “swim or sink” kinda feeling, and even if some cant swim, they are prepared to teach themselves.

Some organisations need to change their policies and their belief that you can bullshit people into what you want them to do. Most employees are not stupid (the others that are needs another blog post!). To all employers out there, dont adapt your employees to fit your company structure – adapt the system to fit the people. People need to feel happy in their jobs – its the only way you will get more productive, innovative and quality-driven products.

So whats changing? How important is being ‘safe’ still to you?

Let me say this: Safe doesnt secure your job, Safe doesnt liberate, Safe doesnt innovate.

We need to take more risks – in business and in life.We need younger executives around the boardroom table because younger people take more risks – they not scared of failure. Failure is learning as long as you always remember the lesson learnt!

So what do you do when you have no idea where you going, or what to do when you get there? How do you know you there if you dont know what ‘there’ is?

I guess thats the difference between knowing where you going and not knowing. I like not knowing because it keeps the journey interesting.

Knowing equals answers. Not knowing equals questions.

Although…sometimes, I wish I could swop the two!

Are you scared? Well, you should be.


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I love this line. Its from the supernatural horror movie called Gothika. A scene where Penelope Cruz tells Halle Berry these exact words.

Often I underestimate what my 5 year old daughter can or cannot handle when it comes to movies of this nature. Most 5 year olds are not allowed to watch these kind of movies. I believe my husband and I need to give our daughter a ‘healthy’ dose of the movie world.

This story is not about my 5 year old, nor is it about horror movies.

I guess its about how much we underestimate the feeling of fear.

Fear is probably one of the most important lessons life can teach you. I’m sure there’s hundreds of articles and books about fear, so I’m not going to make another article of this.

The only thing I want to say about fear is the feeling of fear. Its magnificently different for each person. I dont know why I use the word magnificent in relation to fear – nothing magnificent about it – or is there?

For me, fear is the feeling of all rational thinking gone, all logic goes out the window, and all that’s left is the feeling of how to get out of it.


Adapt or die (another favourite line of mine), and in this world we either adapt to fear, or we die from it.

Which one will you choose?

The Untitled


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Yes. This is the name of my story.

In the same vein as when a new folder is created on a computer, the default name, untitled, is chosen. By this it means – not knowing whats inside the folder – so too dont I know whats inside this story.

I’ve read articles on writing. Some say have a list of what you want to write. Others say “and stick to that list!”. There’s the content marketing do’s and dont’s. There’s writing advice on how to get your audience’s attention. These are tips and advice with all good intention.

I’ve engaged and absorbed alot of this content. So whats taking me so long to write the next story?

Time. Imperfection. Not knowing. Not knowing what to write – the untitled folder.

I think this might be the start of a new blog name. One that is not only focused on the workplace in the 21st Century, but one thats also focused on me, and my learnings in the 21st Century.

Let’s see where this takes us.

“Keep your coins, I want change”


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I love this image. So controversial and powerful.

Does this scene look familiar?

Street beggars. Homeless people. Whichever way you put it, I hate them.


I hate them not because they irritating or a pain in the you-know-what!. I hate them, mostly because they remind me of who I could be.

It scares me. Why? Because it’s the unknown that stares right back at me. Maybe its guilt for what I have. Maybe its anger at them for not doing anything more for themselves. Or maybe its just plain sadness for what they endure on the streets.

What leads them to that place, I’ll never know. But it can happen to any one of us, at any given time. It reminds me of the cruelty of this world. It reminds me of the purity of where we came from and to where we shall return someday.

Everyone has a choice, and where you land up in life is a result of choices. Really? There has to be more to it than that.

For now, I embrace this image of a beggar, and say…

“Keep your coins, I WANT CHANGE”.


(if you know who I should credit this image to, please pop me a comment)